What is in a smile?
© Rosemary Williams, RW Coaching
Have you thought about people’s smiles and what it shows?
When people are nervous it can show in their smile as the edges of the mouth are upturned but the rest of the body does not match. The eyes may stare or dart around with a lack of sparkle, shoulders sloping forward and how are the feet. Anxiety, too, can be seen through other parts of the body even when the face shows a smile. The eyes may be more open, searching around and hands and feet may show tension.
A person’s mood and inner feelings can be expressed through the way they smile. Their emotional state shows through their demeanour, indicating how true they are being to their feelings. A false smile can happen quickly whereas a genuine one takes a little longer to grow. Do you think if some-one acts happy they can become happy? Do you subconsciously know when a smile is false, which has a negative effect, or can it be done so well it deceives?
Even in an apparently unfavourable situation a smile may keep people going, showing a cheerful disposition. When a person is trying to bringing energy levels down the receiver may smile as a way of protecting themselves.
Incongruency means that the expression does not match up with other parts of the face, body or voice. From an early age people can put on a smiley mouth yet there is incongruency, showing they are unhappy inside. The mask is to protect themselves. We look at people and see the body at a glance and any miss-match creates doubts in our mind. If there is doubt it weakens the belief we have in or about that person and one of the main bases of a relationship is trust.
An asymmetrical smile can look very cheeky, mischievous or show amusement! An open smile may indicate a pleasurable surprise. Look around you and notice how a smile improves appearance, as happier people somehow seem more attractive. A smile has a positive emotional effect on those who see it, encouraging interaction and increasing influence. Do you believe a smile can travel along the airwaves, when talking on the telephone for example, to the person receiving the message? Being positive has positive outcomes.
Remember even a genuine smile is not well received if a person has not had a recent oral hygienist and dental check-up or not considered their personal hygiene, as halitosis and stale body odour are sensory barriers to a relationship.
A brief genuine smile to a colleague, worker or any person you are in contact with is encouraging, showing you acknowledge, appreciate and look at them in a favourable way. Accompanying it with a nod and a thank-you re-enforces the giving and increases the effect on the receiver.
A truly happy smile radiates from the mouth, through the upturned edges to the sparkling eyes, eyebrows and skin. Overall the body posture is open and relaxed. Rapport builds up, the person is more approachable and easier to get along with.
Great elation shows in even more than a full smile with the body movements, oozing the excitement. Accompanied by laughter and giggling shows what fun we find in that situation. Again smiles leading to laughter have a very positive impact on our wellbeing.
So you can make the world a happier, more positive and gain better relationships. When you see a person without a smile, give them one of yours which reflects happiness into their eyes. May your business sparkle!
© Rosemary Williams, RW Coaching